Single Parenting – The Child’s loss

We see a lot of single parents who feel proud to bring up their children single handedly. I have heard some of them saying, “I never let my child feel the absence of his mother or father”. Its good if people think that way. But aren’t you being selfish when you say that?

Have you ever asked your children whether they miss their other parent?
There are different roles played by the mother and the father. A mother cannot become a father and vice versa. A child needs both the parents to learn ways of life. Affection and love of a mother cannot be replaced by the affection of the father. It is said that daughters are more attached to their father and the sons to the mother. And this really has a big significance.

It is natural that a child needs both parents to grow up. Usually single parents are divorced. A divorce usually is a result of family disturbance or prolonged misunderstandings and lack of cohesion between spouses. Imagine what a child goes through amongst all the disturbances. Ego fights between parents makes the child nervous and de-motivated. The child looses confidence and gets scared of any activity. When spouses go in for a divorce or separation, they usually do not think about the child’s feelings. There are so many cases where the spouses fight for the child’s custody but they forget that the child wants to stay with both. Fighting for child custody is just an eyewash to show the world how much the parents care for the child. The child on the other hand suffers the most. Its such a difficult situation when the child needs to decide which parent to choose. Parents have no right to decide who the child wants. It’s the responsibility of both the parents to respect the child’s rights.

Linus Orakles
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